For curious minds ages 3โ€“12

Ask, Don't Tell: A Guide to Great Questions

๐ŸŽฏ Learning objectives

After this article, you should be able to:

  • Tell the difference between closed and open questions
  • Use wait time instead of giving answers
  • Follow up with questions that deepen thinking

Children ask about a hundred questions an hour. Adults, meanwhile, ask the wrong kind. Here is how to make your questions count.

Closed vs open questions

Closed (one word answer)Open (thinking answer)
"Is this rock heavy?""What do you notice about this rock?"
"Do plants need water?""What do you think would happen if we never watered this plant?"
"Is the boat floating?""Why do you think the boat floats but the coin sinks?"

Open questions have no single right answer โ€” so there is nothing to be "wrong" about. That is what makes them safe to think about.

Wait time: the hardest skill

After you ask, count to five in your head. Children need time to think. Most adults answer their own question after two seconds โ€” and the child learns to wait for the answer instead of making one.

The magic follow-up

Whatever the child answers, say the four most powerful words in teaching:

"What makes you think that?"

It works for right answers, wrong answers and wild answers. It turns a guess into reasoning.

More question starters

  • What would happen ifโ€ฆ?
  • How could we find outโ€ฆ?
  • What is the same aboutโ€ฆ and โ€ฆ?
  • What would you change to make it better?
  • What else could we try?

Never fear "I don\'t know"

The best answer a child can give is "I don\'t know โ€” yet". Model it yourself. Then say: "How could we find out together?" That is the entire scientific method in one sentence.

Practise right away with one of our inquiry lessons.

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